Read the entire extraordinary story that lead Evening-Marie Ransom to become a life and intimacy coach as well as an expert in the field of Life Reinvention.
When going through Hell I found that lipstick and a good pair of stilettos gave me the courage I needed to do the most important thing, and that of course was to keep going.
Evening-Marie to English dictionary
You are going to notice some repeated themes, so to familiarize yourself with this
new language, here is a short Evening-Marie to English dictionary:
- She is a unique blend of qualities that are often misunderstood. A bombshell has some fragility
and innocence that make her approachable and interesting, but she is capable even if she makes her way
by unconventional means. Bombshells are lovers of life, of men and their own company. They are flawed
and quirky, fun-loving, and friendly. Being a bombshell is more of a state of mind than anything. Watch/see
the blog for more thoughts on the mindset and role of a bombshell.
- I think of love as a verb. Love is as love does. We do not have to love, it is a choice of intention and action. It is also not the same as care, and it is not an instinct that everyone has naturally. To truly love we must mix various ingredients --- care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, trust, honest and open communication. Love is not the feeling of being drawn to someone or the feeling of connecting. Scott Peck calls this cathexis. I'll borrow his definition of love which is "Love is extending ourselves in order to nurture our own or another's spiritual growth." I'd like to add that love and abuse cannot co-exist.
I am amazed by all naturally occurring gem stones, and I see God in them all, but, but pearls are special to me. Unlike sapphires, emeralds and diamonds, pearls are not stones at all; they don’t grow out of the earth. Pearls are created by oysters, and the beauty is in the fact a pearl is what an oyster makes of its pain and discomfort. I use pearls because they represent transformation of pain into something valuable.
- Personality disorder/sociopath/narcissist
- I will use these terms interchangeably and although there are proper definitions differentiating these words one from the other, but for our purposes here, it will do to understand that personality disorders are thinking errors that overrule a person's ability to stay in reality. People with personality disorders assume too little responsibility for the issues in their lives and relationships. These are the blamers, finger pointers, one's quick to find a scapegoat. All sociopaths have personality disorders though the reverse is not always true. Sociopath is a broader term than narcissist, and when I talk about narcissism and narcissists, I am specifically talking about people who have narcissistic personality disorder which is an important distinction because in our culture, especially for men, a certain degree of narcissism is considered to be a positive quality that is characteristic of being successful and more masculine. When it is at the point of being a disorder the person is absolutely unable to put anyone else's needs before their own, even when the person is their own child. When I refer to my experiences in my family and in my marriage I am referring to people who qualify for all three of these labels.
- Ransom, Ransoming
- the cost or price of redeeming. The price you must pay for whatever it is (life or love).
I am using it in my programs to describe the price we pay to take our lives/hearts back. Working through the
program is the ransom.